Look at Yourself With Rose Colored Glasses
"You do you" is a phrase that's been floating around for a little while now, becoming even more popular by the book "You Do You: How to Be Who You Are and Use What You've Got to Get What You Want (A No F*cks Given Guide)" by Sarah Knight. I have not read this book, but I think by the title I can surmise the main idea. Given the trend of the term, it seems that this self help concept resonates with a lot of people.
In the broad sense, one should not care what others think and just do what they love. We've all seen this phrased one way or another in a sappy meme. It's inspirational for sure, but typically forgotten seconds later. Forgotten because it only scratches the surface of the concept, oversimplified like in the lyrics of that ancient song "Don't Worry, Be Happy, " by Bobby McFerrin.
It seems that feeling guilty is part of our DNA as women. Family and friends tell us to take care of ourselves and take it easy. You know you should, but it's much easier said than done. Even if you could, would you let yourself enjoy the downtime? Or, would you spend it thinking about the next chore or feeling as if you don't deserve the break?
More often than not, we set aside our dreams and desires to support others. We don't give it a second thought. Since many of us are predisposed to worrying about others or their impression of us, we need to learn how to redecorate our mental perceptions. Redecorating can be fun, right? Every year, every season, every time we feel like someone figuratively gut punched us with harsh words, we can reassess why we let things devastate us and focus on enriching ourselves instead. Can I get an amen?
Think positive and positive things will happen is a cliché and not necessarily true, but there is some wisdom to it. Thinking positive isn't going to prevent someone from insulting you or being rude. Although, It may prevent you from tossing your coffee on them. The objective is to not take things personally. To understand that a person's bad day, can easily turn into your bad day if you let it. In turn, positivity is contagious.
If we can train ourselves to see ourselves with rose colored glasses, to be strong and self-affirming. If we clean out the old cobwebs of self-doubt and insecurity, than possibly those things that upset and bother us about ourselves will seem inconsequential and meaningless. That, my friends, is "you doing you."